Love Uninterrupted Day 7 – That’s So EF’ing Annoying

Love Uninterrupted Day 7 Pet Peeves

Sometimes there are things that are just plain annoying. Pet peeves can be deal breakers too. It could be anything from flatulence to body hair.

At this point, if you haven’t realized that communication is key then perhaps the issue is not your partner but you.

Talk is not cheap. It’s a price we pay for healthy relationships and peace of mind.

Recognizing what your pet peeves are is a great way to identify what triggers your ugly side. Personally I can’t stand the sound of a leaky faucet so a boyfriend who gets up at 3am and forgets to turn it off will have me writing “REDRUM” on the bathroom mirror before I go to bed.

Sometimes a pet peeve is insight into a bigger issue with your relationship. It might shed light into the fact that you either don’t want to be with that person or that you’ve changed and so has your needs.

If someone doesn't know that their snoring is disrupting your sleep, then you can’t blame them for it. Be tactful and compassionate when addressing pet peeves with your significant other.

Knowing the difference between a pet peeve and a deal breaker can prevent awkward conversations and passive-aggressive behaviors.

Today's Assignment: Take a few minutes to answer the following and reflect on your answers to these questions:

  • What ticks have your past boyfriends/girlfriends complained that you had?
  • How do you initiate confrontation? How do you handle being confronted with?
  • What are your most annoying pet peeves?
  • What are your deal breakers?

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Love Uninterrupted Day 5 – Thou Shalt Have Goals or Else

Love Uninterrupted Day 5 Ambition

Ambition: when you have a deeply rooted desire for achievements, personal and professional.

Were you the type that wrote down their life goals in high school? Or are you the type that goes with the flow?

“Que sera, sera”

When picking a life partner, being on the same “page” is important. Having passion for life can’t be faked. You either have it or you don’t.

Looking at your significant other, examine the following:

  • Does he/she love what they do?
  • Have they moved up the salary ladder?
  • Did he/she finish high school? College? Post-graduate?
  • Do they have a plan for their goals?

Money tends to be a taboo topic but it can’t be, not when you’re considering a life-changing event like marriage.

There’s nothing wrong with having ambitions and expecting others to have the same.

Work / Life balance is a myth. It’s a juggling act, at best. In a relationship, knowing your role is what helps makes the balance.

Today's Assignment: Take a few minutes to answer the following and reflect on your answers to these questions:

  • How important are your ambitions to you?
  • Where do you want to be in 1 year? 5 years? 10 years? 20 years?
  • Do you need to be financially taken care of? If not, are you comfortable being the primary breadwinner?
  • If you have children or want children, who is the primary caregiver?

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Love Uninterrupted Day 1 – Thou Shalt Be Loyal or Else

Love Uninterrupted Day 1 Loyalty

Loyalty: expressing devoted attachment towards someone, or something.

This is one of the cornerstones of most relationships. Loyalty is expressed with action.

  • Does he/she turn off Call of Duty when you walk through the door?
  • Does he/she call you back in a timely manner or do you have to wait hours for them to respond with a “k” to your 140 character message?

Loyalty is one of the easiest things to gauge because you’re measuring action. You’re looking at how they prioritize you in their life. The best way to understand loyalty is to look at your own attachments.

What are you loyal to?

  • Mani/Pedi’s?
  • Cappuccinos?
  • Monthly brunches with the girls?

When you’re able to prioritize the loyalties you have for yourself, it becomes easier to understand and accept the loyalties of others. It also helps put your relationship into perspective.

If your significant other ranks #25 on your list of priorities, then is it realistic to expect him/her to place you in their top 5?

Today's Assignment: Take a few minutes to answer the following and reflect on your answers to these questions:

  • What does loyalty mean to me? Is there a difference between emotional and physical loyalty?
  • Why am I loyal? What keeps me from wanting to break someone’s trust?
  • What does the gray area of my loyalty consist of? Cheating? Sexting? Flirting?
  • What are the deal breakers in my relationship? Lying? Infidelity?

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