Love Uninterrupted Day 2 – Thou Shalt Have Integrity

Love Uninterrupted Day 2 Integrity

Integrity: adhering to specific behaviors, actions, expectations and outcomes as if they were the right way to be.

  • Once you have examined loyalty, integrity is next.
  • Does someone have the same morals you?
  • Does your significant other keep their promises to you? How about with others?

Pay attention to what someone says and what they do. That’s very telling of their character. Action always speaks louder than words.

Gauging integrity requires a personal reality check. Begin with critiquing yourself before judging someone else’s integrity. There’s nothing wrong with having standards as long as you hold yourself to them as well.

  • Is lying ever justified?
  • To protect a loved one?
  • To spare their feelings?
  • To protect yourself?

Life is full of grey areas. Integrity is not a black/white topic. The important thing is to know yourself well enough to know what compromises you’re willing to make with someone else’s choices. What is the context? “Would you lie” is a loaded question because answers would change depending on the circumstances.

Today's Assignment: Take a few minutes to answer the following and reflect on your answers to these questions:

  • Would you (have you) ever cover for a coworker who leaves early, takes long lunches, pockets office supplies, etc?
  • Do you keep secrets from your partner? If so, what kind and why?
  • Have you ever had to embellish a story?
  • How much do you judge others? What do you judge them for?

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Love Uninterrupted Day 1 – Thou Shalt Be Loyal or Else

Love Uninterrupted Day 1 Loyalty

Loyalty: expressing devoted attachment towards someone, or something.

This is one of the cornerstones of most relationships. Loyalty is expressed with action.

  • Does he/she turn off Call of Duty when you walk through the door?
  • Does he/she call you back in a timely manner or do you have to wait hours for them to respond with a “k” to your 140 character message?

Loyalty is one of the easiest things to gauge because you’re measuring action. You’re looking at how they prioritize you in their life. The best way to understand loyalty is to look at your own attachments.

What are you loyal to?

  • Mani/Pedi’s?
  • Cappuccinos?
  • Monthly brunches with the girls?

When you’re able to prioritize the loyalties you have for yourself, it becomes easier to understand and accept the loyalties of others. It also helps put your relationship into perspective.

If your significant other ranks #25 on your list of priorities, then is it realistic to expect him/her to place you in their top 5?

Today's Assignment: Take a few minutes to answer the following and reflect on your answers to these questions:

  • What does loyalty mean to me? Is there a difference between emotional and physical loyalty?
  • Why am I loyal? What keeps me from wanting to break someone’s trust?
  • What does the gray area of my loyalty consist of? Cheating? Sexting? Flirting?
  • What are the deal breakers in my relationship? Lying? Infidelity?

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