Love Uninterrupted Day 7 – That’s So EF’ing Annoying

Love Uninterrupted Day 7 Pet Peeves

Sometimes there are things that are just plain annoying. Pet peeves can be deal breakers too. It could be anything from flatulence to body hair.

At this point, if you haven’t realized that communication is key then perhaps the issue is not your partner but you.

Talk is not cheap. It’s a price we pay for healthy relationships and peace of mind.

Recognizing what your pet peeves are is a great way to identify what triggers your ugly side. Personally I can’t stand the sound of a leaky faucet so a boyfriend who gets up at 3am and forgets to turn it off will have me writing “REDRUM” on the bathroom mirror before I go to bed.

Sometimes a pet peeve is insight into a bigger issue with your relationship. It might shed light into the fact that you either don’t want to be with that person or that you’ve changed and so has your needs.

If someone doesn't know that their snoring is disrupting your sleep, then you can’t blame them for it. Be tactful and compassionate when addressing pet peeves with your significant other.

Knowing the difference between a pet peeve and a deal breaker can prevent awkward conversations and passive-aggressive behaviors.

Today's Assignment: Take a few minutes to answer the following and reflect on your answers to these questions:

  • What ticks have your past boyfriends/girlfriends complained that you had?
  • How do you initiate confrontation? How do you handle being confronted with?
  • What are your most annoying pet peeves?
  • What are your deal breakers?

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Love Uninterrupted Day 2 – Thou Shalt Have Integrity

Love Uninterrupted Day 2 Integrity

Integrity: adhering to specific behaviors, actions, expectations and outcomes as if they were the right way to be.

  • Once you have examined loyalty, integrity is next.
  • Does someone have the same morals you?
  • Does your significant other keep their promises to you? How about with others?

Pay attention to what someone says and what they do. That’s very telling of their character. Action always speaks louder than words.

Gauging integrity requires a personal reality check. Begin with critiquing yourself before judging someone else’s integrity. There’s nothing wrong with having standards as long as you hold yourself to them as well.

  • Is lying ever justified?
  • To protect a loved one?
  • To spare their feelings?
  • To protect yourself?

Life is full of grey areas. Integrity is not a black/white topic. The important thing is to know yourself well enough to know what compromises you’re willing to make with someone else’s choices. What is the context? “Would you lie” is a loaded question because answers would change depending on the circumstances.

Today's Assignment: Take a few minutes to answer the following and reflect on your answers to these questions:

  • Would you (have you) ever cover for a coworker who leaves early, takes long lunches, pockets office supplies, etc?
  • Do you keep secrets from your partner? If so, what kind and why?
  • Have you ever had to embellish a story?
  • How much do you judge others? What do you judge them for?

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